1. Homeschoolers lack socialization: This is by far one of the most annoying stereotypes about homeschoolers. It is also one of the least true. Homeschoolers go to co-ops, church, playdates, classes, play sports, go to the grocery store, visit nursing homes, volunteer at shelters and other locations. The list goes on and on but most people don’t seem to think that counts. “What about going to school to be with kids their own age?” Well, the thing is socialization is so much more than playing with kids the same age as you. It’s about speaking to and getting along with people in general. Homeschoolers can do that in spades! Studies have consistently shown that homeschoolers are well-rounded and very social. There really is no need to worry about homeschooled kids and socialization, they are doing just fine.
2. Not everyone homeschools for religious reasons
Some homeschoolers do homeschool for religious reasons but not all. In fact, there are more who homeschool for reasons other than religious then there are that do. SOme homeschool due to bullying, because they don’t like the curriculum, they like having their kids home, they feel they can get a more rounded education at home. Their reasons vary and are different for each family. It is insulting to some homeschoolers to assume they are super religious and only homeschooling to teach the Bible. It would be much better ask why someone homeschools if you’d really like to know.
3. We do actually teach our kids
Despite what seems to be a popular belief we do teach our kids. We read books, watch videos, have discussions, write reports, do spelling tests, draw, do science experiments, learn state capitals. Everything kids are taught in public school, we teach it. It may look different for each family but our kids do learn. In fact, more often than not our kids are learning no matter where we are. An ant or a blade of grass can start a whole conversation about nature. Don’t worry about our kids they are doing just fine.
4. That homeschooled kids don’t have friends
This one goes hand in hand with socialization. Yes, homeschoolers have friends! Many are actually popular and go to parties and dances. They play sports and star in plays, finding friends. They have jobs and meet people that way. Homeschoolers have sleepovers and big birthday parties with their friends. I will never understand why this particular stereotype persist! It makes no sense to me unless of course we stay locked up all day! I wish this question wouldn’t be asked anymore but alas it is a very popular one. I will say it one more time yes our kids have friends!
5. Homeschool kids are too smart for “normal” school
Not every homeschooled kid is a genius. Some of them are normal average students. That’s not to put them down, because it’s okay to just be what some call “normal”. However, there is a huge stereotype that all homeschool kids must be above average and aren’t being challenged enough. I’ve heard “He must be really smart for you to homeschool him, otherwise, why would you do it?” Um, because I want to! There are many homeschooled kids who are above average but just like public school each student has their own strengths and weaknesses. They are all on different levels.
6. Homeschooled kids are below average
I could have easily put this with the above average one but I wanted to address this separately. Just like with the above average stereotype this one is far from true. As I stated above homeschooled kids vary just as much as public schooled kids. There are some kids who are below average and this may or may not have a bearing on their parents choose to homeschool. I want to mention how rude it is to assume all homeschooled kids must be dumber than their peers so that is why they are homeschooled. Also having below average grades doesn’t mean one is dumb either. It may mean they aren’t being challenged enough or too much. The truth is this is an ugly stereotype that needs to go away now! People should just stop assuming and love their lives. I’m pretty sure these same people wouldn’t like it if we all went around assuming the same thing about their kids.
7. Homeschooled kids are sheltered
This stereotype assumes that all homeschooled kids are sheltered. While some homeschooling parent admits to sheltering their kids and that is perfectly fine. We all don’t! This mindset assumes homeschool kids either don’t watch TV or only watch certain things, doesn’t listen to music or only listens to certain kinds. That homeschooled kids don’t know about the modern pop culture, doesn’t celebrate some or any holidays. That they only read certain books, I’ve even heard people say homeschooled kids aren’t allowed to have an imagination. That is so laughable! Yes, there are strict homeschool parents but there are strict parents across all walks of life. Why are homeschoolers being targeted with this stereotype?
8. That we all hate public schools
We don’t all hate public schools and those that do have a problem with public schools usually have a pretty good reason. Often times their kids were bullied and the school did nothing, their kid was singled out, they weren’t thriving and the school didn’t help. I would say a great number of homeschoolers don’t have a personal problem with public schools they just want to homeschool. They have no other reason then they want their kid home so they teach them themselves. We aren’t hate-filled people going on long tirades about the evils of public school. We just want what’s best for our kids like every other parent.
9. Homeschool parents think they are better than parents who send their kids to public school
I’m not going to sit here and say that there isn’t a homeschool parent out there that thinks they are better than public school parents. There very well maybe! However, I can say the majority of us don’t. We want to just be able to make our choices without being judged and ridiculed. Believe me, there are some public schoolers who think they are better than homeschoolers, I’ve seen it. This could be a two-way street really. Really though most people just want to live their lives without judgment. No, I’m not better than you and I don’t think I am. What I do think is that we as parents are making the best decisions for our families. Public school or homeschool it’s okay to do either or!
10. All homeschool moms wear denim jumpers
I could not make a stereotype list without adding this. I have no idea how this got started and why so many people believe it but it tickles my funny bone. I have never nor will I ever own a denim jumper. I can speak on behalf of a vast amount of homeschool moms who can say the same thing. Why do people think this? I am genuinely curious! I have been asked if I wear denim jumpers and keep my hair up. What? No! Am I wearing one now? Is my hair pinned up? There are some homeschoolers who do wear there and there are plenty of people who do that don’t homeschool. I really think this is another stereotype that needs to be put to pasture. You meet homeschoolers every day, even if you don’t know it and they aren’t wearing jumpers haha. Many people personally know homeschoolers and still believe many homeschool moms wear jumpers. Can we just let this one go now, please? I want to end with if you do wear denim jumpers I’m not judging it’s just the rest of us don’t and we wished people would stop believing we do.